During high-school, my biology professor used to say that when students get an A, they say “I got an A”, but when they get an F mark, they say “The professor graded me with F”. When we take a closer look at this, though it might not be something that we like, this is something that we all do no matter what age.
We blame the weather that we do not go to the gym. We blame our colleagues for not listening to all of the things that we say. We blame the bus that it went too early and did not wait until we arrived at the bus station.
From this, we can understand that when we are getting something that we want, we usually tend to attribute all the credits to ourselves, but when something unpleasant happens to us, we tend to blame the others. During these cases we are playing the role of a victim who is seeking to hide and blame other things instead of taking responsibility and viewing failure as an opportunity to get better and improve our abilities and skills. We are not going to achieve everything that we want in our lives, unless we sell ourselves too short. It is inevitable that we are going to slip here and there, but this should not be used as an excuse of not dedicating and putting sufficient effort to get better and improve ourselves.
We should not give up trying and should be ready to use past experiences as orientations in the future. Instead of blaming other things, it is more important to decide to take control over what we do have power over.
“Life without endeavor is like entering a jewel mine and coming out with empty hands.” ~ Japanese Proverb
