I have been writing in this blog for quite some time now and have shared in social media a very small portion of the articles that I have written. I did not know the exact reason behind this strange hesitation that I had, so I decided to write about the actual reasons that I was not consciously aware of. After writing all the reasons that I thought were preventing me from sharing them, I figured out that none of them was something that should be considered as something reasonable. After seeing that there was not anything that could be taken seriously, I started sharing new articles from this blog and thus saw a considerable increase of readers of them. I have also used this similar technique to face some difficult situations that I have been in and have found it quite powerful and would like to share it with you and mention some of the reasons that I think make it efficient.
If you have an internal insecurity, facing a tough decision that you are trying to take or a problem that you find it difficult to solve in your life, you might give this method a try.
The technique
I do not have any predetermined set of rules about it and I also like the freedom and my own authority of choosing any reformatting that I want. Mostly, after I write the actual problem, or the question that is bothering me in the title of a new Evernote note and then writing all the reasons that I can come up with about the decision that I am trying to take. I use Evernote, but you may be using any type of writing material that you prefer, whether that is a physical piece of paper, or a new Notepad note. Then I try to brainstorm about all the difficulties and the reasons that may pop up in your mind at the moment as the plausible obstacles.
After writing all the reasons, try to underline or bold these reasons and under each one of them question whether that particular one is valid or not. Can you come up with a new counterexample, or fact that disqualifies that obstacle to be the case of a factor that should be taken into consideration? Does it really matter in the overall picture, or is it simply something that can be ignored and deleted from this list altogether? If it does matter, what can you do about it? Write the actionable steps that you think will help you regarding it.
After you have been tackling all of them, it might be a lot easier to proceed now that you have a clearer picture of what is ahead and what is missing, as fears usually appear because of the unknown.
Finally, if you are not sure or have not seen any progress with the problem, seek help. Ask a close family member or friend to help you and review the notes you have taken. They might be better at making the correct estimations and give the correct advice, because they might be emotionally free of charge and might think more subjectively about you than yourself.
Why does it work?
Even though it sounds really simply, it should work most of the time, because when you write, you might see what is something in reality and not exaggerate as we tend to do in our own minds. When we see things from another perspective, new approaches and insights might appear which can help our way of thinking and behaving.
When we are very specific about the actual problem and the obstacles that we might face regarding it, it is no surprise that things might not look that hard as they used to look like when we were being afraid about them. Remember that being afraid is normal. If you do not feel fear, then you might have some mental disorders.
Moreover, asking someone for help and looking for their advice might be something beneficial and valuable, as they might not only give you a good advice, but can also support you.
